Know when to say you’re sorry.
I went for a drive last weekend with my fiance. It was a nice drive but he was stressed out over...everything that’s happening in the world.
I could tell he was upset but it had nothing to do with me. That’s when I began to notice I was spending the day apologizing for things that I was not responsible for.
A car pulled out in front of him and I apologized for that happening to him. What? Yeah.
The restaurant we wanted to get take out from was still closed. I apologized because we couldn’t eat there. Really? Yeah.
This continued for about two hours before I realized what I was doing. I couldn’t believe after all these years in a healthy relationship, I still reverted back to my toxic baggage when I became triggered by my fiance’s bad mood.
I quickly changed my reactions, stopped feeding on his bad mood and just let him be. We got through the day and the next morning we were back to normal.
We must always try to recognize these behaviors in us. There will always be times when we should apologize. We hurt feelings. We forget a birthday. We make a mistake. Those are on us and we should say we’re sorry.
But we should never, ever, feel the need to apologize for something that has nothing to do with us.