The question: A woman recently asked me what to do about her mother and other female family members being too involved in her wedding planning. The ladies are trying to invite their own guests. They are giving unsolicited advice about the menu and the wedding party’s attire.
My response: To begin with, I am not a fan of families. Sharing blood is not a good enough reason to treat another person like trash. That said, you have to realize that just because they are family members does not give them any right to have a say in your day.
I’ll wager that you don’t particularly care for most of these ladies. You wouldn’t buy them dinner or entertain them on any other day but you feel obligated to do so on your wedding day because “they’re family”. That logic (or lack of) drives me absolutely insane.
Stop feeling this way and stay true to yourself. Tell your mother and the rest of your family members that you don’t give a damn if they do or do not like a certain aspect of your wedding. YOU and your partner have a certain number of people that will be attending the wedding and THEIR guests did not make the cut.
Do not, under any circumstances, let them guilt trip you because you share DNA. Remember, they are the ones being a bunch of dicks, not you. If they can not handle these boundaries, then they don’t get to come to your wedding and you save $50 a head. I call that a win-win.