Question: Is it normal to miss someone that was so bad for you?
Answer: Of course it is. Why wouldn’t it be? Your relationship died. You must mourn it.
This is a real problem when people leave toxic relationships. They feel that because the other person was so terrible, they should only feel happiness now that it’s over. Human beings don’t work that way.
It takes time to “get over it”. You must feel what has happened. You must cry for what is gone. You must learn to be alone. You must retrain your brain to your new life. You must go through a lot to get to the other side.
Be gentle with yourself. Yes, that word may be a new concept or one you need to remember. But, you deserve gentleness especially right now. I mean, not from me. I’m not a gentle person and I’m not afraid to tell you you’re being a schmuck.
Just know that whatever you’re feeling is normal and natural and part of the healing process. Let it in so you can begin to let it go. You schmuck.