Please stop thinking that you are dealing with someone who is mentally healthy when in fact they are toxic.
I keep reading questions like “Why does he tell me he loves me one minute than screams at me the next?” Or “Can a mother be jealous of her daughter and wish her harm?” Or “Why can’t he understand (fill in the blank)?”
Because these people are not mentally healthy. If they were, these questions wouldn’t come up, would they?
Do you consider yourself mentally healthy? Of course you do. Are your actions the same as toxic people? No, they are not. Then why are you asking these questions? You know the answer. The other person is mentally ill.
What you need to do is begin every thought about that person with that disclaimer. S/he is mentally ill so blah blah blah. You will begin to see them in a new light and hopefully understand that your love and presence will not change them.
Don’t misunderstand me. Being mentally ill is not an excuse for being an asshole. If someone is treating you poorly, abusing you, or you just plain don’t like them....leave! You don’t have to stay with someone who is like that. Let their therapist deal with them. And if they don’t have a therapist, it’s still not your damn issue.