This blog post is about public speaking. Everyone has to speak publicly at some point. It’s a fact of life even with technology allowing us to communicate in isolation.
High schools require seniors to give speeches as part of their graduation and it continues from there. Teachers require it, bosses expect it and certain occasions demand it.
There are occasions when we are compelled to speak. We do it for friends, families, those that mean everything to us and issues that move us to act. We pay tribute, express love, share important experiences or make the world a little better by speaking in public.
I did a modest amount of research for this blog post. I read other posts about how public speaking is scarier than death to some, that it’s all in your head or you should picture the audience naked! I personally don’t recommend picturing an entire group of people naked but hey, if it works, who am I to knock it.
After my research was done, I realized that I didn’t need to do any of it. All I really needed to do was share my experience and hopefully some wisdom. So, here goes…wish me luck.
I’ve always said that whatever you’re feeling isn’t wrong. It’s completely natural to feel sad, happy, angry or indifferent over something that happened. Just write it down. Feel it. Read it. If it moves you, it will move your audience. Be proud and care about what you say. It will radiate to the listeners.
Yes, sometimes there is a lot riding on your speech. Perhaps you are giving a eulogy and you need to tell everyone at the funeral exactly what your loved one meant to you. You only get one chance when it comes to times like these.
Please don’t worry. Everyone gets nervous. That is the absolute truth. It doesn’t matter how many times a person speaks to a group. They get nervous. Here’s the great part though. It doesn’t show! What? Yes! You can’t usually see nervousness in another person. Of course there are always exceptions but that should make you feel a little better.
And always remember, there is no one in the audience that thinks they could have done a better job with what you said. Besides even if they do (which they won’t) then they don’t count.
Speak to the people that want to hear you. If you don’t know who that is, then speak to me, I’ll listen.