For your wedding, you have chosen: the clothes, the music, the food, the venue, the audience and even the invitations. So, why would you choose to have your vows come from a template? These are your vows after all. This is what you are promising to your partner, your lover, your life.
The bad news is, writing your own vows is tough. The good news is, you’re not getting graded on it. In fact, you can’t go wrong. I mentioned in one of my posts that your feelings are not wrong. What you write to your soon-to-be spouse will be perfect because it comes from you...and you are both about to become one.
That being said, there are a few things that you can DO that would be wrong. Making your vows 15 minutes long, for example, would be considered wrong. Telling nothing but inside jokes is something else you should steer clear of. Peppering them into a speech is fun, though, but that’s another post.
Here are a few items that will help you on your vow writing journey:
First and foremost, breathe. This is a beautiful time in your life and it should not be stressful.
Speak from the heart. I know this sounds cliché but where else are you going to speak from during this time?
Give yourself plenty of time. You should write, edit, rewrite, read, and repeat a few times. Unless you are good at off-the-cuff speeches, give yourself time to prepare.
Sure there are tips and templates and so called rules to vow writing. You don’t have to mind those. You have to say what you mean and of course mean what you say. Bring a verbal piece of yourself into your special day. Everything is so visual during a wedding. It will be a nice contrast to have the other senses engaged as well. And if all else fails, call or email me. We’ll get though it together.